Parents will: praise of the six skillEvery child likes to praise, children don't need to be praised. However, the recognition of needed skills. Too much, and praise of vague, exaggerated or inaccurate, are likely to have such a negative effect. So, do you have a credit problem? Just ask the child's performance.
Children's performance every day like a magpie, "I did this" "I did that", then wait for your praise.
Out what was the problem: before you praise may have gone too far, so the children have come to rely on your praise, he does things to you solely for the purpose of the credit. If you do not have the usual praise to him and he will lose.
How to improve: proper to suppress his enthusiasm, let praise become more valuable. Babies walk independently for the first time, memorized the first full sounding like "a goose", is indeed worthy families cheered. But if those who have to do things like drink a bottle of water, urinating before they called her mother, an adventureless landing to the ground from the sofa, we wouldn't need to Selectmen of praise, hugs and kisses.
Children's performance: he is your praise showing surprised, frustrated, or angry.
What's wrong: perhaps you underestimate children's abilities, so your praise made him uncomfortable. Like a child long ago learned to wear beads, but you do seem very surprised, "praising" him: "awesome, can put into a string! "I think kids listening to this, argued or dissatisfaction, either directly angry then left the room.
How to improve: the understanding of children's interests and existing capacity, as well as the average for children of the same age, and then a fairly level evaluation of the child. Remember to let your praise and your child's ability to grow up, mark praise is tantamount to a form of abuse.
Children's performance: indifferent to praise you or all your languages.
Out what was the problem: the problem may be a lot of: 1, your praise is probably too vague, and let them think you don't care about what he had done. Praise 2, you are the same, so that children no longer feel any stimulation. In short, if "awesome" becomes your mantra when children did not feel to it.
How to improve: first of all, in praise of more detail. Instead of saying "my dear, you're really good," rather than: "look you paint the Moon, there is a cloud on the side, really like the night sky! "It will make the child feel that you really pay attention to their work, and children can learn from your praise, they should work toward. Second, feel free to raise your standards, update content, if six months ago, child 3 jumps in a row get your applause, then he should at least complete 6 now. Finally, the child list of different ways to be appreciated. There are many things that make children excited, this could be your solution.
Children's performance: the child is stressful, even disgust you for saying that.
What's wrong: your praise may not overflow, and exaggeration. Such exaggerated praise would become a kind of pressure, let the child with heavy hearts. And if you always praise him too much in front of other mothers or children, may actually make him uncomfortable. Don't think small children, he could hear what you said is not true, and he also has a small face.
How to improve: seeking truth from facts would be nice. Specific, appropriate and easy to praise, can make children feel sure they know have to work. While he learnt properly restrained and subtle is a kind of beauty.
Children's performance: after hearing your praise becomes angry or sad.
What's wrong: maybe you have a language problem, you some kind of joke, but hurt the child's self-esteem. For example, you obviously want to praise your child can dress himself, but if you say "who says we can't dress yourself? How good you look! Are pants backwards, HA, ran up to the bottom of the zipper, lol...... "children will feel very hurt.
How to improve: Please use your sense of humor. For such a small child, to give him a clear language, rather than the ambiguous half joke and half praised. You need to let him know what he deserves high praise, you are satisfied with how much his performance. For children under 3 years of age, do not be too obsessed with his mistakes. Finish one thing, worthy in itself, those innocuous little details you just didn't see it.
Children's performance: he can't afford a setback, failure or criticism made him very angry.
What's wrong: too much praise at the same time, your approach may be worth discussing. In retrospect, when you praise him, is more focused on results rather than process, focused on "you can......", rather than "you work so hard ... ..." your attitude will lead children to focus more on results, rather than attitudes and methods.
How to improve: focus on praise on his attitudes rather than on results. When a child learns a new skill when not praised how well he did, and encouraged him to explore the spirit or persistence of will. For example, when the child had attended the dance performances, you can tell her that her smiles makes everyone feel that she really tried my best to finish her dance, it made my mother very proud.
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